Relationship Danger Signs and What To Do About It

Hi Everyone!  First, I want to wish everyone a "Happy Holiday".  And second, I want to help you avoid the pitfalls of relationship disaster.  It's no secret, the stress of the holidays can damage your marriage.  Instead of enjoying each other and your family, you find yourselves having more arguments and feeling overwhelmed due to expectations.

Here are some of the danger signs to watch out for under the stress of needing to do and spend money on all that is expected of you for this time of year.

• Becoming irritable with everyone and everything

• Avoiding your partner

• Yelling at one another over small incidents

• Becoming defensive - And not listening with your 'third' ear

• Feeling sad or depressed

• Drinking more than usual

What You Can Do About It

5 Love Languages

Remember a time when you felt 'really loved'.  What was happening at that moment? Who was there for you?  What did they say to you or do for you that ignited your love feeling?

         

Now remember when you first met your partner.  How did they make you feel ... loved?  What did they do or say to you that made you feel safe, important, and cared for?

Now think about your partner.  When was the last time you think you made them feel loved?  What did you say or do for them?

When we find our partner's love language we then know exactly how to connect or re-connect with them and help them feel loved.

5 Ways people may feel loved: 

• Words of Affirmation 
• Acts of Service
• Gifts
• Quality Time Spent Together
• Physical Touch  

One or more items above may be your partner's love language.  Your mission is to uncover what it is that makes them feel loved.  One key note is, often your partner may not really know this themselves.  However, don’t give up…together enjoy the journey! 

Check in with me and let me know how you made out.

“The Five Love Languages:  How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” is a book by Gary Chapman.